What to write on dating site to get reply
We all want to get laid and we all have our sexual proclivities, and if we like something in particular we may mention it on our dating profile.
But even if there’s a recognition that we, like almost every other adult human being, sometimes enjoy having our genitals touched, there’s no need to go all porno upon first introduction. Until you’ve gone actual porno in real life, leave the porno-chat alone.
Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.
We can tell when your message is copied and pasted to multiple people.
There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into OK Cupid, check their messages, and not message you back. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.
Even if you do have a creepy racial fetish, announcing it will do you zero favors (although if you do have a creepy racial fetish, maybe deal with that through pornography and therapy, and don’t bring real live human beings into it?
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.
More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.
The beauty of internet dating is that we all get to specify what we want.
Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time – including your own.